Life Lessons....

I just need a minute of your time…

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So recently i have just come back from holiday in Spain and as holidays do they help you reflect on everything and its made me realise that as a 25 year old single male who’s working a normal Monday – Friday 08:30/5:00pm job that there is so much of my life that i am frustrated about.

I’m frustrated because i feel stuck in a job that i HATE to pay rent for a house thats not mine, to not really have many true friends, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town with small town mentality and i know that myself and others around me are BIGGER and BETTER than this, and this got me thinking about everything and even you fellow bloggers out there…..

Am i normal for feeling like this and thinking like this? is it bad that i want MORE from life that i am getting? because IF i could (not saying i would) but if i could i would pack my stuff and head for the city/London and just pursuit my dreams of doing music and being in the music industry…Now some of you will say “Well why don’t you just do it?” and thats a great question but I’m always told that we need to make sure we are set here first and i agree but i feel like I’m going to burst sometimes and do something irrational (like i keep dreaming about walking out of my job and giving them a swift and polite F YOU out of the door).

So as i write this, i would love to hear your advice and if any of you have made the big jump and moved somewhere different or far away? or what your thoughts on it are? and if you are reading this feeling the same i ENCOURAGE you to be confident and brave, to not accept leading a normal life and be GREAT, be BOLD and DIFFERENT!, YOU MUST NOT ACCEPT A JOB PURELY FOR THE MONEY YOU MUST LIKE THE JOB!!!!!, You MUST be around people who want you to win and do well!, You must really tune into your surroundings and ask yourself uncomfortable questions sometimes.., See  i want to leave a positive mark on the world and be positive, bring happiness to others and really make a difference and live COMFORTABLY, i want to build something i am proud of and pass on what I’ve learnt and all the mistakes I’ve made that i wish my parents and loved ones would have told me to be careful of etc, But i want you to feel inspired and encouraged by this….i want you to really look deep inside yourself and find your purpose and passion.

Find something you love and that you’re passionate about, find a way to make it into a CAREER for you, take photos, write poems and music, film that video or youtube channel you’ve always wanted, start a fashion line, write a blog, build a business, join that dance class, do that marathon, don’t discourage ANYONE, Be the reason someone wakes up and smiles on a morning, give someone a hug who needs one, tell someone their great, create the life YOU want to live, be the best at whatever it is you love to do. I believe in you and i know we all have greatness within us and i don’t want ANYONE older, younger or the same age to feel the way i feel because its shit and we ALL deserve GREATNESS.

Please Like and Repost this, Tag a friend, Post it on social medias and get it to anyone who needs to read this…

Your Friend Always,

GS xo

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Purpose…

Well my weekend is over, back to work tomorrow…wishing and hoping for things to change, for work to actually improve and for things to get better and have that feeling of moving forward but sometimes i need to take a step back and really look at things.

I can’t go into details but i can honestly say I’ve seen and I’ve been through some shit, some dark dark places and times in my life but looking back from where i am today, in this very moment I’ve moved forward. Ive had ZERO confidence/self esteem, I’ve had NO money I’ve dealt with a lot of difficult personal demons where at times I’ve punished myself for things that have happened to me or around me.

The beauty of life is the comeback, and the realisation of a purpose. A purpose of knowing where you’re going, what you dream and desire, of you what you truly want in life wether its money a new job your favourite music album or a family with children etc, we all have a dream and we all have shit days and have amazing days and its how you deal with all of it. Take time to truly appreciate all the obstacles you go through and also take a moment not to be so harsh on yourself…Don’t be thinking NEW YEAR NEW ME, start today! take control of your surroundings and be sure to invest time and money into YOURSELF.

If you want to do something GO DO IT!, who cares what other people think?, be unique and stand out from the crowd.

I may be rambling on but I’m just getting off my chest what I’m thinking and if it helps someone or you can resonate with it the please reblog it or comment! i love knowing what you all think and what you experience. Its comforting to know theres good people out there and that we all understand from every and any point of view.

FIND YOUR PURPOSE.

Your Friend Always,

G.S x

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In Love By Now….

I’m supposed to be in love by now, by now
It’s been so long for me, I don’t know how, by now
Been drowning in the sea of broken vows, by now
But I’m supposed to be in love by now, by nowI’ve been chasing my dream, I’ve been chasing you
Running hard but my legs feel weak
I done played every part, I done played a fool
Write the movie, I’ll be your lead

Cause I’m supposed to be in love by now, by now
Well girl you stole my heart now take a bow, by now
In love by now
Well I’m supposed to walk you down the aisle, by now
Change your name and make your parents smile, by now
Leave the Church, make plans to celebrate, by now
A big old house and babies on the way, by now

I’ve been chasing my dream, I’ve been chasing you
Running hard but my legs feel weak
I done played every part, I done played a fool
Write the movie, I’ll be your lead

Well I’m supposed to be in love today, by now
Go through my phone and throw ’em all away, by now
In love by now
Without your love, I want what they say when they write my stories
Without your touch, I’ll never know how it feels to fly
Drown in my emotions, now it’s all on me
Eyes are finally open to love I couldn’t see
Can’t wait ’til I can say bless the day you landed in my arms

I’m supposed to be in love by now
I’m supposed to be in love by now
In love by now….

GS x

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Reflection….

Well my new job starts tomorrow, alot more money, better hours, I can wear a sharp suit/shirt and tie, I’m close to a big city where I live, I’m nervous, excited, worried, everything you could imagine. It’s a BIG move from my old job, it means I have less time with my mother which over the past few years I’ve cherished but on the flip side I can support her so much more now with money, also I’ve surprised people having the guts to move before Christmas and I promised myself I would make the effort to find something soon and I was successful

I just hope I nail the job and can secure my job for good there as I have 12 weeks to prove myself!

I can pay for singing lessons and fund my album and save for a future.

I’m so happy, and since I started this blog I’ve come a long way, from depression, heartbreak, you name it, I’ve turned things around and sometime s I wonder what Scarlett and all the people at college who burned their bridges I wonder what they’d think of me now.

My advice to you guys, go get it, whatever you want need and desire in life go fucking get it. Period. Replace fear with curiosity and your life will go far. Dream. Dream fucking big, and don’t let ANYONE drag you down, slate what you’re doing and thinking. It’s your fucking life and its there to live!

I love you all and will post soon!

Your friend always

G.S xo

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Stronger….

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Just want to thank you to all my followers and friends of WordPress for making me stronger, for having the patience, the love, the comments all the views and the likes of my posts! I’m glad you enjoyed them! At 4000 and 5000 I’m going to do 2 posts that will be a little Q&A and Facts you want to know about me ! So start leaving your questions or things you want to know in the comments and Email me! GentlemanSparks@Gmail.com …

Stay Strong

Love Always

G.S x

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The Cheat and The Cheated….

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Okay, MOST of us have been there, suspected our partners have been cheating, might be cheating, worried about if you’re good enough, if they like someone else and I was watching a film today called “the other woman” check it out!, it inspired me to write about the topic “Cheating” (the ex I mention is NOT SCARLETT!)

Asking “WHY DO MEN CHEAT?” is the same as asking why women do it?, I’ve been victim of 2 people who I had relationships cheating, one time I was told by multiple people and I just walked away and the other I caught red handed, now I’m going to write SIGNS OF POSSIBLE CHEATING these are my own views and I don’t want you people in relationships to be alarmed if you notice similarities etc its just what I saw found and discovered from MY relationships and experiences!

I’m lucky I have a pretty strong eye and sense of those who’ve cheated and do cheat because I’ve not only discovered it in my relationships but I’ve also discovered it for and from friends relationships etc! So here’s some of things to be aware and cautious of!

1. Taking their phone EVERYWHERE!

You ladies love playing FBI and checking you’re fellas phones even if its a quick peek to see what they’re doing BUT my ex used to snatch her phone everywhere even when she was taking a shower and I later discovered pictures of her that weren’t for me! And without slaying lets just say there were no clothes involved! More than one picture also.

2. Constantly complimenting other people

This one was to the point of where it feels like MIND GAMES, saying x y and z is cute and my ex (NOT SCARLETT) even told me how this guy kept “smacking her arse” and saying how much he’d miss her when she left school etc, sounds harmless but I discovered texts back and forth which basically were inviting some kind of activity that involves a bed if you smell what I’m cooking!

3. Randomly getting text and called LATE at night! Or only being “Friends” – I had this with a guy who said he wanted to “fuck” Scarlett, and they were only “Friends” as you say and I honestly felt like beating him up a few times but I tried to deal with them being friends, yet she stopped being friends with him for a while to suddenly become friends with him when we split up…..yeah sounds normal right?….

THIS PART IS IN RELATION TO THE TOPIC ABOVE “Being Friends”

If you question wether someone likes their friends or can be friends with the opposite sex, have 10 shots of whiskey and if you both or you don’t want to do anything with them kiss flirt or anything further etc then you are probably cool to be friends! (It’s an old formula but works!) VIDEO HERE (why men and women can’t be “Friends”)

The thing mentioned in the video above is something that happened with me and Scarlett she got drunk on a night out and kissed one of her guy “friends” she even told me “he kissed her”… Again no generalisation just an experience of what I’ve seen and had done to me

4. Any strange behaviour

Randomly being quiet, change in ways they kiss, hug, sexually, physically, all these can sometimes be signs of SOMETHING (not always cheating)

5. Empty/Cleared Messages

This is for the ladies or gents who have permission from their partners to check their phones, they always say if you’re deleting texts Etc that you don’t want your partner to see you’re already halfway to cheating!….

Look just be careful guys, cheating and being cheated on is horrendous, especially those who are in marriages, or long relationships, it hurts like hell so be cautious, relationships these days are hard with social networks being another way of secret contact and cheating (another one of my ex’s favourites) – I don’t want to freak some of you out but these are only 1 persons opinions and experiences…

Cheating can be anything, and there’s a saying “Cheating is anytime we would not want our partner seeing what we’re doing.” – I know SO many guys In a relationship and what they get up to OUTSIDE their relationship they would be immediately dumped for the way they look and talk about other girls, the places they visit(strip clubs etc) so it’s hard to distinguish a good lie or the actual truth sometimes… – cheating isn’t always sex!!!

If there’s any you’d like to share please reblog this post or comment/like it!

Also a quick topic I want to hear from you guys, when you’ve been cheated on and found out how do you react? Do you seek revenge or do you just leave cut your losses and recover?

I want to hear and share stories, lets put it all on the line here and discuss!

Have you been the cheater? What made you do it? Would you cheat again? What’s the worst lies you’ve made or heard?…..

Spread the love and be kind, your stories may help someone and I hope mine do too.

Your Friend Always,

G.S x

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The MASK

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Sssssssssmooookinnnn!!!……okay…so now I’ve got that quote out of my chest I wanted to talk about something in a different way and I remembered how much I loved this film, not only because of how much I wanted to be like like him, but how I wanted to be like BOTH sides of him,

You have jim carrey who’s just the regular guy, regular job and then you have “THE MASK” who’s such an elaborate and “better” version of himself!

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But we all wear masks at times, we wear them when we have fallen out with siblings and you’re so mad at them yet you go out with your sibling and friends and you’re lovely as pie to your friends but not your sibling

You wear a mask when you meet your girlfriends parents because you know they probably won’t find your corny puns and cheesy jokes funny so you just sit there and keep your mouth shut and talk when you feel like it’s the right time to

You wear a mask when you serve people at work that you don’t like and you HAVE to serve them/be polite to them

You wear a mask when you’ve broken up with someone and you’re forcing yourself to think you’re happy and are doing okay…. When you’re actually struggling inside and feel like sh*t

These are all examples and all that I’ve done before in my life, and probably do without knowing!

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Even in dating when you date you become the REPRESENTATIVE of yourself, you’re more reserved, cautious, playful etc, you don’t sulk or date in joggers sweatpants and a vest etc, no you put on your best suit or a sexy dress and you try and make effort 1000000%!

The art and I guess maybe conclusion of this post is to be BOTH people, have the heart and the guts to be THE REAL YOU (that the MASK is) but in a more controlled way, yet also be how Jim Carrey is as “Himself” in the film, love yourself, learn that different is better than being the same as everyone else, there’s qualities about yourself that are talented, unique, cute and funny, so embrace them, take the mask off and be the real you! And hey if you get a chance, watch the film and let me know what you think of it? I think you’ll LOVE IT

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When do you wear your “Mask”?

Comment below and thank you all for your comments love and support

Your Friend,

G.S 🌹 x

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