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I just need a minute of your time…

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So recently i have just come back from holiday in Spain and as holidays do they help you reflect on everything and its made me realise that as a 25 year old single male who’s working a normal Monday – Friday 08:30/5:00pm job that there is so much of my life that i am frustrated about.

I’m frustrated because i feel stuck in a job that i HATE to pay rent for a house thats not mine, to not really have many true friends, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town with small town mentality and i know that myself and others around me are BIGGER and BETTER than this, and this got me thinking about everything and even you fellow bloggers out there…..

Am i normal for feeling like this and thinking like this? is it bad that i want MORE from life that i am getting? because IF i could (not saying i would) but if i could i would pack my stuff and head for the city/London and just pursuit my dreams of doing music and being in the music industry…Now some of you will say “Well why don’t you just do it?” and thats a great question but I’m always told that we need to make sure we are set here first and i agree but i feel like I’m going to burst sometimes and do something irrational (like i keep dreaming about walking out of my job and giving them a swift and polite F YOU out of the door).

So as i write this, i would love to hear your advice and if any of you have made the big jump and moved somewhere different or far away? or what your thoughts on it are? and if you are reading this feeling the same i ENCOURAGE you to be confident and brave, to not accept leading a normal life and be GREAT, be BOLD and DIFFERENT!, YOU MUST NOT ACCEPT A JOB PURELY FOR THE MONEY YOU MUST LIKE THE JOB!!!!!, You MUST be around people who want you to win and do well!, You must really tune into your surroundings and ask yourself uncomfortable questions sometimes.., See  i want to leave a positive mark on the world and be positive, bring happiness to others and really make a difference and live COMFORTABLY, i want to build something i am proud of and pass on what I’ve learnt and all the mistakes I’ve made that i wish my parents and loved ones would have told me to be careful of etc, But i want you to feel inspired and encouraged by this….i want you to really look deep inside yourself and find your purpose and passion.

Find something you love and that you’re passionate about, find a way to make it into a CAREER for you, take photos, write poems and music, film that video or youtube channel you’ve always wanted, start a fashion line, write a blog, build a business, join that dance class, do that marathon, don’t discourage ANYONE, Be the reason someone wakes up and smiles on a morning, give someone a hug who needs one, tell someone their great, create the life YOU want to live, be the best at whatever it is you love to do. I believe in you and i know we all have greatness within us and i don’t want ANYONE older, younger or the same age to feel the way i feel because its shit and we ALL deserve GREATNESS.

Please Like and Repost this, Tag a friend, Post it on social medias and get it to anyone who needs to read this…

Your Friend Always,

GS xo

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Things That I LOVE About Women…

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So this is MY list of things that i love about women, a collection from things that i love (obviously) and things from my relationship with  Scarlett aswell and i felt that i should write something like this so you all know how amazing women you are and that there are men who appreciate and love all these things (no matter how big or small they seem!)

I hope i inspire people to write their own lists…. if you do please let me know and if you like what I’ve written please like and even reblog it! i hope to reach as many people as i can. So here goes…

I Love…

  • The way you smile when someone tells you you’re beautiful (even though for some CRAZY reason you don’t believe them)
  • Your hair
  • How it sometimes takes you forever to get ready (i actually used to enjoy watching my ex get ready)
  • How when you leave the house i find 295372719495 hair clips all over the house
  • Your Eyes!!!!
  • Your smile
  • How proud/the face you made when i was playing soccer/football (because you knew how good i was and how much i tried when you was there)
  • How much you laughed when i nearly made your whole family throw up playing sports with them because of how quietly competitive i was
  • The way you told me that i will be a great man and a great husband and father one day
  • How all the doubts about life you took away with just one look
  • How amazing you were/are around children
  • How your hands are always warmer than mine
  • The way you get excited on a date night
  • Your smell/perfume
  • How much family matters to you
  • How much you listen and pay attention to something even if you don’t really like it or care about it (like my favourite sports or music etc)
  • How you enjoy your food and get me trying more foods!
  • Your sense of humour
  • Your strong and warm heart
  • How beautiful you are with no makeup
  • How affectionate and how close you like being
  • The way you smile after we kiss
  • The way you nag (in a good way) when i need to do something important like go to the doctors etc
  • How you share your life with me and appreciate the life i share with you
  • How you talk in your sleep
  • Your sneeze (yes i said that!)
  • When you bite your lip
  • When your hair is in a ponytail or pigtails
  • When you wear my clothes
  • How you put others before you
  • How cute you can be when you’re jealous (see the next point!!)
  • How you would kiss me after reassuring you that i only had eyes for you
  • How AMAZING you look in a dress
  • Spooning!! Big spoon or little i don’t care 😛
  • The look on your face when i would surprise you at work
  • The way you say “I Love You
  • The face you make when i tell you that “I Love You
  • Your hugs and kisses
  • Your body
  • How you lay on my chest and wrap your leg around me
  • How you react when i tickle your back
  • How goofy and funny you can be
  • All the TV shows you love (Friends, One Tree Hill Etc)
  • Your sweet tooth and how much you loved me bringing you chocolate!
  • All the songs we share!
  • All the times we’ve laughed and cried together
  • How you buy us men something (even if its big or small) just to let us know that you’re thinking of us and care
  • When you play video games with us
  • How you make life exciting when you’re around
  • How you have 132434657434548 Dresses/Clothes/Shoes but still cant decide what to wear 😛
  • The way you’d sit on my knee
  • When you’d fall asleep on me in the cinema
  • The way you hold my hand
  • When you rest your head on my shoulder
  • When you know how I’m feeling or what I’m thinking even when i try to hide it (wether it be because I’m feeling down or sad etc)
  • How you make me want to do everything better
  • How you make me a better man
  • Having really vulnerable and intimate conversations about life and love and thoughts and feelings etc
  • The way you look when you run
  • Your sense of style and the clothes you wear
  • How you love to shop for me and pick out clothes and stuff for me
  • Kisses in the rain!
  • Always being by my side at social gatherings and sitting with me when I’m somewhere i find really awkward (like your rich auntie and uncles massive family party)
  • All the amazing and sweet text messages and phone calls throughout the day
  • The neck/collarbone area!
  • Your ears and how cute and small they are
  • How soft your skin is
  • When you’ve just come out of the shower and you’re wearing a towel
  • When you laugh at my jokes when they’re not funny
  • Flirting, how it can go from 0-100 real quick
  • Eye contact from far away and the smile that you make when you’re happy to see me
  • Your sexy phone voice
  • How you ALWAYS used to play with your belly button
  • How you used to have SO MANY different smiles, like smiles when you were thinking of something that made you happy or the smile you used to do when only looking at me, the fake smile when you were sad but wanted to hide it, i could list more!
  • How you always used to say you were cold so you could take one of my jackets or jumpers and i would never get it back 😛
  • All the car trips and laughs in the car singing to our favourite songs
  • All your cute hidden talents
  • How unintentionally and intentionally sexy you are
  • How you look in your underwear
  • How much you love kisses on your neck and collarbone
  • How you would get excited talking about the future (usually about having a nice cottage somewhere and being married with a mini me running around the house!)
  • How EVERYTHING made you emotional or how you found everything cute
  • Our favourite spot/hiding place
  • How much you loved that i could tell when we were texting when you was tired (literally freaked her out haha)

I’m sure I’ve missed so many more things out aswell but i feel that most men don’t appreciate or show appreciation for the little things that makes you YOU, and you may have been burnt or hurt in the past or scared to love again but never give up, just because you had 1 bad experience (or a few sometimes), i do believe there is someone out there for everyone but you have to keep being yourself, stay classy, keep your standards high and there will be guys who will be willing to walk 1000 miles for you.

Your Friend Always,

GS xo

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Today,Tomorrow, Forever

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I use this picture as an example, I don’t care if you’re a male or a female reading this, but this is how you want your partner to look at you.

When your with him and her and wether you can see it, this is true love it’s weird how I observe my friends relationships and situations and I can read wether they’re settling, made, “perfect” for each other, happy, sad no matter what they say and do.

The problem is I don’t know what I’m going to do if I’m honest, I’m so old school and old fashioned that I honestly know that I don’t know how I will now meet someone in the future, because I won’t find someone who will love me and have the same morals and values as me, and do you know what frustrates me and worries me? Is all these couples who when they’re partners aren’t around are commenting on how “fit” and “hot” someone ELSE is! Or acting like they’re single when they’re away from their partners…

Sure have a good time with your friends etc but I just cannot understand it, everytime I’ve been with a woman I’ve been married IN MY MIND, because I want to be THAT loyal, I don’t want or stare at another female, sure I’d speak and be polite etc but I wouldn’t flirt or be THAT GUY who’s always commenting on other women, especially behind my woman’s back.

Plus there’s the fact that I’m still not financially secure and that I don’t feel comfortable with my current job, my music and acting career is going well but not enough to bump into old friends Etc and for me to feel like I’ve moved forward much.

It’s been 2 years and counting I think since I saw and heard anything from Scarlett, still feels weird, still feels like I’ve been stung badly it still gets to me in moments but it has and is lessened.

I sometimes see family’s and couples and I really wanted all that, I wanted to be a father and have a child and have my own home and now that dream post Scarlett has just completely left my mind.

I would love to date again and see who’s out there but I just couldn’t go back to the beginning and start all over, I’ve been talking to girls and women I tried tinder I went our more but somewhere in me just doesn’t feel right with it.

I do feel stupid for it, but maybe I need that moment where I see Scarlett or her with another guy to really hit me in the gut, I need to get back into the gym regular and keep up with my football(soccer to American friends) and just keep pushing towards a better life.

I’m writing this because I know that there’s love out there for everyone and there’s chances everyday, but you have to be careful, there’s thorns dressed as roses and that’s what’s worrying, but I guess we can’t live in fear right?

Keep smiling, stay positive and who knows what will happen in this thing we called life.

I believe everything happens for a reason, fate is a crazy thing sometimes

Love always,

G.S 🌹

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Facebook…

Okay so I had a few emails by people asking if I could and would have a Facebook account for GS….So well now you have it guys!!!

You can’t miss me just type in “Gentleman Sparks” in the search bar and you’ll recognise the picture from the blog

It says the name is “Gent Spar” because I had to protect my real name !

Anyways get adding feel free to message, email me link me things anything and spread the love!

Please please click like on this post and reblog! I want to help as many people as I can

Love Always,

G.S x

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Stronger….

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Just want to thank you to all my followers and friends of WordPress for making me stronger, for having the patience, the love, the comments all the views and the likes of my posts! I’m glad you enjoyed them! At 4000 and 5000 I’m going to do 2 posts that will be a little Q&A and Facts you want to know about me ! So start leaving your questions or things you want to know in the comments and Email me! GentlemanSparks@Gmail.com …

Stay Strong

Love Always

G.S x

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The Cheat and The Cheated….

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Okay, MOST of us have been there, suspected our partners have been cheating, might be cheating, worried about if you’re good enough, if they like someone else and I was watching a film today called “the other woman” check it out!, it inspired me to write about the topic “Cheating” (the ex I mention is NOT SCARLETT!)

Asking “WHY DO MEN CHEAT?” is the same as asking why women do it?, I’ve been victim of 2 people who I had relationships cheating, one time I was told by multiple people and I just walked away and the other I caught red handed, now I’m going to write SIGNS OF POSSIBLE CHEATING these are my own views and I don’t want you people in relationships to be alarmed if you notice similarities etc its just what I saw found and discovered from MY relationships and experiences!

I’m lucky I have a pretty strong eye and sense of those who’ve cheated and do cheat because I’ve not only discovered it in my relationships but I’ve also discovered it for and from friends relationships etc! So here’s some of things to be aware and cautious of!

1. Taking their phone EVERYWHERE!

You ladies love playing FBI and checking you’re fellas phones even if its a quick peek to see what they’re doing BUT my ex used to snatch her phone everywhere even when she was taking a shower and I later discovered pictures of her that weren’t for me! And without slaying lets just say there were no clothes involved! More than one picture also.

2. Constantly complimenting other people

This one was to the point of where it feels like MIND GAMES, saying x y and z is cute and my ex (NOT SCARLETT) even told me how this guy kept “smacking her arse” and saying how much he’d miss her when she left school etc, sounds harmless but I discovered texts back and forth which basically were inviting some kind of activity that involves a bed if you smell what I’m cooking!

3. Randomly getting text and called LATE at night! Or only being “Friends” – I had this with a guy who said he wanted to “fuck” Scarlett, and they were only “Friends” as you say and I honestly felt like beating him up a few times but I tried to deal with them being friends, yet she stopped being friends with him for a while to suddenly become friends with him when we split up…..yeah sounds normal right?….

THIS PART IS IN RELATION TO THE TOPIC ABOVE “Being Friends”

If you question wether someone likes their friends or can be friends with the opposite sex, have 10 shots of whiskey and if you both or you don’t want to do anything with them kiss flirt or anything further etc then you are probably cool to be friends! (It’s an old formula but works!) VIDEO HERE (why men and women can’t be “Friends”)

The thing mentioned in the video above is something that happened with me and Scarlett she got drunk on a night out and kissed one of her guy “friends” she even told me “he kissed her”… Again no generalisation just an experience of what I’ve seen and had done to me

4. Any strange behaviour

Randomly being quiet, change in ways they kiss, hug, sexually, physically, all these can sometimes be signs of SOMETHING (not always cheating)

5. Empty/Cleared Messages

This is for the ladies or gents who have permission from their partners to check their phones, they always say if you’re deleting texts Etc that you don’t want your partner to see you’re already halfway to cheating!….

Look just be careful guys, cheating and being cheated on is horrendous, especially those who are in marriages, or long relationships, it hurts like hell so be cautious, relationships these days are hard with social networks being another way of secret contact and cheating (another one of my ex’s favourites) – I don’t want to freak some of you out but these are only 1 persons opinions and experiences…

Cheating can be anything, and there’s a saying “Cheating is anytime we would not want our partner seeing what we’re doing.” – I know SO many guys In a relationship and what they get up to OUTSIDE their relationship they would be immediately dumped for the way they look and talk about other girls, the places they visit(strip clubs etc) so it’s hard to distinguish a good lie or the actual truth sometimes… – cheating isn’t always sex!!!

If there’s any you’d like to share please reblog this post or comment/like it!

Also a quick topic I want to hear from you guys, when you’ve been cheated on and found out how do you react? Do you seek revenge or do you just leave cut your losses and recover?

I want to hear and share stories, lets put it all on the line here and discuss!

Have you been the cheater? What made you do it? Would you cheat again? What’s the worst lies you’ve made or heard?…..

Spread the love and be kind, your stories may help someone and I hope mine do too.

Your Friend Always,

G.S x

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The Liebster Blog Award

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Well this is going to take some time!  but id like to thank AnnStVincent for nominating me for it!, your blog is amazing so guys check it out!!!

 

Here are MY answers to your questions :).

  1. Why did you start your blog? I started it because my brother suggested doing one and seeing what i would be like writing posts etc, so i thought why the heck not!
  2. Does your Mom read your blog or know it even exists?  HELLLLLLLL NO….
  3. What one thing scares you, and why?   Knowing that one day i wont have many of the people i love around me and being scared of growing up on my own
  4. Do you have “one who got away”?  If so, who is it?    I have……Scarlett ….. as known in the previous posts!
  5. What is your most cherished childhood memory?   Spending time with my mother and brother mainly, he is my best friend and we have literally grown up together more than most brothers do thats why we are so close, weve been through hell and back together
  6. Are you doing what you thought you would do with your life?   Not really, i didnt really dream or plan anything when i was younger…..its kinda why my future is so unclear
  7. What motivates you?   All the things that have hurt me, the people walking out of my life and the ones who told me i couldnt.
  8. What’s #1 on your life “to-do” list?   It used to be have a family and get married romantically, now its to have as little regrets as possible.
  9. Do you have a talent that might surprise your readers?   i dont know if its a surprise? but im an Actor, Singer and Songwriter.
  10. What song makes you the happiest?  My whole playlist!
  11. And in honor of the man who nominated me: who is your favorite muppet, and why?   Kermit….because hes badass!

11 Random Things About Me:

  1. Most of my blog posts are SONG TITLES of my favourite songs or songs i deem relevant!
  2. I was almost professional at soccer/football
  3. I scratch my head in my sleep
  4. I have a twin.
  5. I once was in a choir
  6. People say im a chameleon and can blend in most social situations etc
  7. i never use the word bored to explain how im feeling!
  8. I once waited 3 hours for an ex girlfriend in the dating phase because she was late for our date
  9. Ive never been to a strip club
  10. I listen to music ALL THE TIME!!!!
  11. My favourite movie is the notebook!

Blogs I’m Nominating:

  1. Carissa’s World
  2. Amy Pinkrose
  3. missalyreid
  4. Disordered Self
  5. Midnight Eagle

My Questions for the Nominees:

  1. What is your favourite colour?
  2. If you could live 1 year back from the past what would you choose?
  3. Whats the best advice youve recieved?
  4. What would you tell your younger self if you could ?
  5. Favourite song?
  6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  7. Whats are you talented at?
  8. How many times have you been in love?
  9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  10. Describe GentlemanSparks in 5 words?
  11. How would you describe your personality?

For future Liebster Award recipients, here are the rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.
  • Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)
  • Answer 11 questions about yourself, which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.
  • Provide 11 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 5-11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can always ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display a widget that lets the readers know this information!)
  • Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.
  • List these rules in your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

 

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