Life Lessons....

I just need a minute of your time…

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So recently i have just come back from holiday in Spain and as holidays do they help you reflect on everything and its made me realise that as a 25 year old single male who’s working a normal Monday – Friday 08:30/5:00pm job that there is so much of my life that i am frustrated about.

I’m frustrated because i feel stuck in a job that i HATE to pay rent for a house thats not mine, to not really have many true friends, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town with small town mentality and i know that myself and others around me are BIGGER and BETTER than this, and this got me thinking about everything and even you fellow bloggers out there…..

Am i normal for feeling like this and thinking like this? is it bad that i want MORE from life that i am getting? because IF i could (not saying i would) but if i could i would pack my stuff and head for the city/London and just pursuit my dreams of doing music and being in the music industry…Now some of you will say “Well why don’t you just do it?” and thats a great question but I’m always told that we need to make sure we are set here first and i agree but i feel like I’m going to burst sometimes and do something irrational (like i keep dreaming about walking out of my job and giving them a swift and polite F YOU out of the door).

So as i write this, i would love to hear your advice and if any of you have made the big jump and moved somewhere different or far away? or what your thoughts on it are? and if you are reading this feeling the same i ENCOURAGE you to be confident and brave, to not accept leading a normal life and be GREAT, be BOLD and DIFFERENT!, YOU MUST NOT ACCEPT A JOB PURELY FOR THE MONEY YOU MUST LIKE THE JOB!!!!!, You MUST be around people who want you to win and do well!, You must really tune into your surroundings and ask yourself uncomfortable questions sometimes.., See  i want to leave a positive mark on the world and be positive, bring happiness to others and really make a difference and live COMFORTABLY, i want to build something i am proud of and pass on what I’ve learnt and all the mistakes I’ve made that i wish my parents and loved ones would have told me to be careful of etc, But i want you to feel inspired and encouraged by this….i want you to really look deep inside yourself and find your purpose and passion.

Find something you love and that you’re passionate about, find a way to make it into a CAREER for you, take photos, write poems and music, film that video or youtube channel you’ve always wanted, start a fashion line, write a blog, build a business, join that dance class, do that marathon, don’t discourage ANYONE, Be the reason someone wakes up and smiles on a morning, give someone a hug who needs one, tell someone their great, create the life YOU want to live, be the best at whatever it is you love to do. I believe in you and i know we all have greatness within us and i don’t want ANYONE older, younger or the same age to feel the way i feel because its shit and we ALL deserve GREATNESS.

Please Like and Repost this, Tag a friend, Post it on social medias and get it to anyone who needs to read this…

Your Friend Always,

GS xo

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The Proposal…

Lyrics:

If we can’t be happy, can we at least, pretend?
Even if you cannot love me, can you at least just tell me it?
Ain’t that what they all do anyway?, yeah, they kiss each other on the face
They call each other bae, when deep down inside all they feel is pain

So we might as well get married cause ya so sick of me already
You want me to leave already, so hard to believe already, already, already
We might as well get married cause we’re arguing already
You hate my guts already, fell outta love already, already, might as well get married, turn the lights on

Lets smile at each other, so we can please our friends
Cause we both know just how much you care bout impressing them
Cause ain’t that what couples do anyway?, they lie right in each others face
And they call each other bae, when deep down inside all they feel is pain

So we might as well get married cause ya so sick of me already
You want me to leave already, so hard to believe already, already, already
We might as well get married cause we’re arguing already
You hate my guts already, fell outta love already, already, might as well get married, turn the lights on

I buy you a house so you can kick me out
Take my ass to court and tell the judge what I’m ’bout
Don’t forget to tell the kids that they Daddy ain’t shit
Look at how he did ya Momma out there with that outta bitch

Cause we’re arguing already
Fell outta love already, already, might as well get married

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Stronger….

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Just want to thank you to all my followers and friends of WordPress for making me stronger, for having the patience, the love, the comments all the views and the likes of my posts! I’m glad you enjoyed them! At 4000 and 5000 I’m going to do 2 posts that will be a little Q&A and Facts you want to know about me ! So start leaving your questions or things you want to know in the comments and Email me! GentlemanSparks@Gmail.com …

Stay Strong

Love Always

G.S x

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The Liebster Blog Award

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Well this is going to take some time!  but id like to thank AnnStVincent for nominating me for it!, your blog is amazing so guys check it out!!!

 

Here are MY answers to your questions :).

  1. Why did you start your blog? I started it because my brother suggested doing one and seeing what i would be like writing posts etc, so i thought why the heck not!
  2. Does your Mom read your blog or know it even exists?  HELLLLLLLL NO….
  3. What one thing scares you, and why?   Knowing that one day i wont have many of the people i love around me and being scared of growing up on my own
  4. Do you have “one who got away”?  If so, who is it?    I have……Scarlett ….. as known in the previous posts!
  5. What is your most cherished childhood memory?   Spending time with my mother and brother mainly, he is my best friend and we have literally grown up together more than most brothers do thats why we are so close, weve been through hell and back together
  6. Are you doing what you thought you would do with your life?   Not really, i didnt really dream or plan anything when i was younger…..its kinda why my future is so unclear
  7. What motivates you?   All the things that have hurt me, the people walking out of my life and the ones who told me i couldnt.
  8. What’s #1 on your life “to-do” list?   It used to be have a family and get married romantically, now its to have as little regrets as possible.
  9. Do you have a talent that might surprise your readers?   i dont know if its a surprise? but im an Actor, Singer and Songwriter.
  10. What song makes you the happiest?  My whole playlist!
  11. And in honor of the man who nominated me: who is your favorite muppet, and why?   Kermit….because hes badass!

11 Random Things About Me:

  1. Most of my blog posts are SONG TITLES of my favourite songs or songs i deem relevant!
  2. I was almost professional at soccer/football
  3. I scratch my head in my sleep
  4. I have a twin.
  5. I once was in a choir
  6. People say im a chameleon and can blend in most social situations etc
  7. i never use the word bored to explain how im feeling!
  8. I once waited 3 hours for an ex girlfriend in the dating phase because she was late for our date
  9. Ive never been to a strip club
  10. I listen to music ALL THE TIME!!!!
  11. My favourite movie is the notebook!

Blogs I’m Nominating:

  1. Carissa’s World
  2. Amy Pinkrose
  3. missalyreid
  4. Disordered Self
  5. Midnight Eagle

My Questions for the Nominees:

  1. What is your favourite colour?
  2. If you could live 1 year back from the past what would you choose?
  3. Whats the best advice youve recieved?
  4. What would you tell your younger self if you could ?
  5. Favourite song?
  6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  7. Whats are you talented at?
  8. How many times have you been in love?
  9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  10. Describe GentlemanSparks in 5 words?
  11. How would you describe your personality?

For future Liebster Award recipients, here are the rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.
  • Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)
  • Answer 11 questions about yourself, which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.
  • Provide 11 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 5-11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can always ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display a widget that lets the readers know this information!)
  • Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.
  • List these rules in your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

 

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IS CHIVALRY DEAD????

ImageThis topic is something me and the guys, even my mother talk about these days….is chivalry really dead?, if not its certainly on life support.

I’ve been fortunate to have been raised by an amazing lady which is mother, she has taught me so many important things that i truly value and believe, i believe in love, romance, chivalry, politeness, making effort with your woman, sticking to one lady, treating your lover right etc, but ive actually had my manners insulted and thrown back at my face before.

Recently ive had ladies say “i can get the door myself” along with a lot of other frustrating comments regarding my values and personality, which made me think about a lot of things, i once got dumped for being TOO NICE, i mean i always thought that the female population imagined and expect Disney film, the notebook kinda love but then again so much has changed in society. Now us men and myself aren’t perfect at all but how can you ladies of the world expect and demand and good faithful man when your actions etc say differently?, take the picture that ive used as an example, now fair play not every female does these antics nor find them cool etc but its something that really frustrates me in a way, not because they’re having a wale of a time but the fact that it gives a bad image of the beautiful beings that you ladies are!, what happens with most guys are they get treated like dirt at a young age so they decide to treat girls like rubbish and become the “bad guys”, ladies love a bad guy who they wanna change and make a pet project right? well good luck!

This could potentially turn into a rant but all im trying to say is that i wish in the world there was more classy ladies who had a bit of self respect who isn’t “getting” with every tom dick and harry in the place, there’s nothing i find more sexy than a girl covered up in a beautiful dress all natural whos not desperate to get smashed and lathered and be a LAD.

IF you have a good man in your life or lady treat them right before someone comes along to do it for you, open the door for her buy her dinner and surprise her, its the little things fellas that mean the most but ladies give the guy reasons to do it, im all for you having time for yourself letting your hair down but nothing more of a turn off than a drunk girl.

LEAVE THINGS TO THE IMAGINATION! – If i see everything on display before we are even friends or together i cant even explain how much i think if it was my daughter id be gutted because there’s jerks out there that ASSUME you are a slut or put out and trust me they think it even if they don’t say or act like it, guys talk just like ladies do.

Stay classy and you’re all beautiful in your own unique ways and there’s someone out there for everyone, maybe im too old fashioned and maybe you’ll disagree with what i think and feel but comment and let me know what you think..is chivalry dead?

G.S

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Life Lessons Part 2……

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This life lesson post is going to be about education and money.

Here’s a bit of a back story to me as a person, I am an intelligent person, i like to think I’m creative and quite mature for my age, although as much as i really wanted to be academic like my brother i couldn’t, as a kid i always had a ridiculous scenario in my head that i had to be like him but what he taught me crazily in life is that i have to be myself and that we all have different talents and things we are good at!, so anyways i got into high school and was predicted very very low grades and a small chance of even getting 5 A-C’s and I actually managed over 12!, the next big step was college!, the best thing about college is you know who you are and you begin to create real goals and dreams to work towards!, but i began making friends and really enjoying the social aspects of college more than the work! (who doesn’t enjoy going round town and chilling with friends?), by doing this (and also having a terrible relationship) at the time diverted my attention far too much.

I was struggling with assignments and teachers didn’t seem interested which made me lose more interest. To cut the story short i failed college BUT managed to be granted another year at trying to pass…….which i failed a 2nd time round.

Things in life I believe happen for a reason and I can see that in my life I had to fail to become the person I am today. I’m not proud of it and to be honest for years ive been embarrassed about it.

I’ve been made fun of it a fair few times too! this obviously blew my chances of going to university and building the maturity and independence which I much-needed (and still do!)

My brother went on to pass school college and university with an amazing degree, okay he lived in a big city and we had some amazing times there but his stay was a real struggle and he made everyone proud putting the work and effort in there! it also gave me the blessing of living vicariously through him!, however, he’s since then returned back to home in pursuit of a graduate job and i had an idea but never realized how DIFFICULT finding a job for someone as intelligent as my brother.

You uni students will read this and most graduates will agree and my brother would make a great colleague and manager one day too, he’s got great work ethic never late always dresses smart, well qualified but he’s had to settle with a job that the pay doesn’t match his qualifications or aspirations and dreams! so it made me this is it worth it? is university really the step forward for college students?

Here’s a list of my lessons of education

1. STUDY AND STUDY LOTS!

If you have a choice of going out with your friends or doing your homework i may sound stupid but sacrifice some of your friends time to study.  A BIG amount of friends through your education most likely wont be your friends in the future! so bare that in mind the next time your dog ate your homework (and all the other excuses that we use!).

2. If you’re struggling with your work ASK FOR HELP!!!!!!

Something i always was scared to do because i didn’t want people and my friends thinking i was thick or a geek and all that bull!, just ask, drop down your pride and get the help you need, stay after class an hour or so, so what if it cuts into your Xbox time or whatever activities you like to do!

3. IF YOU STUDY AT UNI STUDY AWAY….

This is a big one, my ex stays at home and travels to her uni because it is considered a close travel but there’s nothing better than moving to a big city and fending for yourself. My brother has changed in so many ways because he’s grown as a man, when we go shopping i buy sweets and he buys detergents! he washes his own clothes etc and to be honest i think most girls when they’re looking for a guy like and appreciate a guy who can carry his own!, so if you get the chance, go and go meet some new people grow your confidence and find yourself

4.Budget, BUDGET, BUDGET!

Keep tabs on expenditures and find ways of saving yourself important pennies which could cover food and living etc if you decide to live away but budgets apply to everyday life! ACT YOUR WAGE as i always say! we’ve all struggled and had money problems and there’s nothing worse than going to bed hungry.

5. Choose a course that’s right for you (Not for your family friends or lover!)

DO NOT make the error of choosing something “Coz it sounds mint” or because your friends decide they wanna do something, if you’re good at sport why do something that doesn’t further your chance of a career in something you love and enjoy!

6. Get social, make friends and go on a few nights out

This is a must for any student, i know some people are socially awkward and ive been blessed with the gift of being able to talk for England but you got to meet people and NETWORK, its more important than actually having a degree, it’s who you know not what you know sometimes

7. Facilitate YOUR dreams.

Wether its working, Practicing or anything related to working towards your goals and dreams DO IT. Sometimes life can be a pain in the ass and get in the way but do the best with what you’ve got.

If there’s anything you want to add or talk about on this topic then please feel free to comment and drop me a message, id love to hear your experiences and thought on education and money!

G.S

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Sparks Fly

Okay so i’m new, Don’t have a clue what i’m doing. There may be spelling mistakes but i want to talk about everything and anything, Life, Love and all the things that i love and appreciate in my life! hopefully there will be lots of you on this journey with me!

G.S 🌹

Send your questions  you can send anything from quick fire questions to questions you need help with about love breakups and all that jazz!

ALL QUESTIONS WILL BE ANSWERED BUT YOU MAY ASK ANONYMOUSLY 

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