Life Lessons....

I just need a minute of your time…

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So recently i have just come back from holiday in Spain and as holidays do they help you reflect on everything and its made me realise that as a 25 year old single male who’s working a normal Monday – Friday 08:30/5:00pm job that there is so much of my life that i am frustrated about.

I’m frustrated because i feel stuck in a job that i HATE to pay rent for a house thats not mine, to not really have many true friends, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town with small town mentality and i know that myself and others around me are BIGGER and BETTER than this, and this got me thinking about everything and even you fellow bloggers out there…..

Am i normal for feeling like this and thinking like this? is it bad that i want MORE from life that i am getting? because IF i could (not saying i would) but if i could i would pack my stuff and head for the city/London and just pursuit my dreams of doing music and being in the music industry…Now some of you will say “Well why don’t you just do it?” and thats a great question but I’m always told that we need to make sure we are set here first and i agree but i feel like I’m going to burst sometimes and do something irrational (like i keep dreaming about walking out of my job and giving them a swift and polite F YOU out of the door).

So as i write this, i would love to hear your advice and if any of you have made the big jump and moved somewhere different or far away? or what your thoughts on it are? and if you are reading this feeling the same i ENCOURAGE you to be confident and brave, to not accept leading a normal life and be GREAT, be BOLD and DIFFERENT!, YOU MUST NOT ACCEPT A JOB PURELY FOR THE MONEY YOU MUST LIKE THE JOB!!!!!, You MUST be around people who want you to win and do well!, You must really tune into your surroundings and ask yourself uncomfortable questions sometimes.., See  i want to leave a positive mark on the world and be positive, bring happiness to others and really make a difference and live COMFORTABLY, i want to build something i am proud of and pass on what I’ve learnt and all the mistakes I’ve made that i wish my parents and loved ones would have told me to be careful of etc, But i want you to feel inspired and encouraged by this….i want you to really look deep inside yourself and find your purpose and passion.

Find something you love and that you’re passionate about, find a way to make it into a CAREER for you, take photos, write poems and music, film that video or youtube channel you’ve always wanted, start a fashion line, write a blog, build a business, join that dance class, do that marathon, don’t discourage ANYONE, Be the reason someone wakes up and smiles on a morning, give someone a hug who needs one, tell someone their great, create the life YOU want to live, be the best at whatever it is you love to do. I believe in you and i know we all have greatness within us and i don’t want ANYONE older, younger or the same age to feel the way i feel because its shit and we ALL deserve GREATNESS.

Please Like and Repost this, Tag a friend, Post it on social medias and get it to anyone who needs to read this…

Your Friend Always,

GS xo

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Purpose…

Well my weekend is over, back to work tomorrow…wishing and hoping for things to change, for work to actually improve and for things to get better and have that feeling of moving forward but sometimes i need to take a step back and really look at things.

I can’t go into details but i can honestly say I’ve seen and I’ve been through some shit, some dark dark places and times in my life but looking back from where i am today, in this very moment I’ve moved forward. Ive had ZERO confidence/self esteem, I’ve had NO money I’ve dealt with a lot of difficult personal demons where at times I’ve punished myself for things that have happened to me or around me.

The beauty of life is the comeback, and the realisation of a purpose. A purpose of knowing where you’re going, what you dream and desire, of you what you truly want in life wether its money a new job your favourite music album or a family with children etc, we all have a dream and we all have shit days and have amazing days and its how you deal with all of it. Take time to truly appreciate all the obstacles you go through and also take a moment not to be so harsh on yourself…Don’t be thinking NEW YEAR NEW ME, start today! take control of your surroundings and be sure to invest time and money into YOURSELF.

If you want to do something GO DO IT!, who cares what other people think?, be unique and stand out from the crowd.

I may be rambling on but I’m just getting off my chest what I’m thinking and if it helps someone or you can resonate with it the please reblog it or comment! i love knowing what you all think and what you experience. Its comforting to know theres good people out there and that we all understand from every and any point of view.

FIND YOUR PURPOSE.

Your Friend Always,

G.S x

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What my crappy jobs taught me…

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There comes a time in your life where you have to do something you don’t want to do, it can be and come in many ways and forms and mine is certainly my job. Answering the phone making calls taking payments receiving very unpleasant comments about my service when I’m just doing my job is daunting, frustrating, tiring and depressing. I’ve even thought about quitting and I’ve been here since the start or December.

I thought it was going to be an adventure I thought the job would have had training, support from colleagues, a room for development and growth and all it’s been is a push into the deep end and guess what?!? I CAN’T SWIM…. Or at least I thought I couldn’t….

We have all had shit jobs, we’ve had shit uniforms and low pay and low wages (this i still have) but there are actual things you can learn from rubbish jobs! And here’s mine…..

1. Retail – Being nice to people you HATE

Serving ungrateful and ignorant customers or seeing people you don’t like when you’re in a rubbish uniform and you’re exposed walking around on a shop floor teaches you a couple of things. That this job isn’t FOREVER, it’s a stepping stone and a test in the water for your next job. Just have faith and patience and save a little bit of money every wage, enjoy the people you work with and be greatful that people are desperately looking for a job. Working in retail taught me that unpredictability is actually a good thing, doing crazy shifts like 6-12 12-10 8-5 different days and doing overtime is actually a good thing because the shifts pass quicker I believe. I learnt that managers are horrible to you because they’re power hungry and that if you ever work your way to the top of the ladder sometimes you gotta give your colleagues a break. Some are going through hell and back out of work so stop worrying for 1 second if the shelf is empty or tidy and concentrate on building better rapport and morale In your workplace.

2. Office Job

Working 8:30-5PM is not fun, its actually horrible, i sit there and i just think minute by minute my youth is disappearing and i regret the freedom and the time i had from my shitty retail job gave me i should have been more productive and its no excuse but having depression and not wanting to even move let alone do anything productive didn’t help. This job has given me more money, to buy a mac, to pay for singing lessons, to save up and I’ve learnt to be more organised and more switched on day by day. I realised i became a bit of a zombie in my retail job, this job i do now is quite hard and frustrating and one thing that you could easily forget to mess up an engineers day. My boss treats me and everyone with respect, the atmosphere is relaxed, theres room for mistakes and growth, i dress well, my phone manner and everything has improved. I can understand why people stay in these kind of jobs but at the same time i just don’t get it, i am all for working but i believe in finding a passion, waking up everyday and not feeling like work, the big slump out of bed to turn alarm off and desperately grabbing an extra few mins because you had a late night worrying about your job and who needs calling first thing or what your boss will say. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE. Im literally doing this job to save up and travel and put towards my music, a year of this struggle might help me have a few years of LIFE of adventure and happiness.

Don’t settle. Dream big. Love and Laugh.
Your Friend,

GS x

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What Life Is About…

I’ve been working at my new place for nearly a month and I start back in a few hours and dya know what? I’m already dreading it, ill be honest with you I’ve realised alot over the past couple of weeks and I’ve really reflected and discovered what’s important to me, so I’m gonna be bold and brutally honest and I hope you all can relate or benefit from hearing what life is about in my eyes.

Happiness
Do NOT sacrifice your happiness and what you love for MONEY, I don’t give a shit what excuses you may tell yourself but you cannot replace TIME, time as in with your partner, your loved ones, your family, your friends.

Stay in bed with your lover a little longer, cherish the small things in life, focus on a career that makes you fire up your belly with excitement, be with someone who creates fireworks in your eyes and heart, save your money work towards your goals and BE HAPPY.

Risks

Take a fucking risk!!!, it’s a massive risk me taking this job and I HATE working Monday to Friday, but I need the money and in a year or 2 guess what, I’m gunna take another risk and quit my job and go towards my goal and dreams.

Take risks in love!, be bold!! Go tell that girl or guy you like them, stop waiting for the right time because there’s NEVER a right time!, look ill never get Scarlett back and for us who have loved so truly and deeply and it’s been longer than a few months can’t just one day go “hey Scarlett guess what? Should have fought for you and I’m still in love with you etc”, I wish I had the answers, I wish I knew where this road has and will take me!

Quit that shitty job and go find something and someone who makes YOU happy! fuck everyone else, your friends and your family because only YOU know what’s right for YOUR life!

I want you all to do me a favour, I want you to write a list of 5 things you want to do this year that are BOLD decisions wether it’s a holiday or quitting your job, finding love/dating again, whatever it is go do it NOW

PASSION

FIND YOUR PASSION, what comes effortless to you? What do you TRULY love? What do you enjoy?, find something that makes you look forward to waking up, take a chance, believe in yourself and support those around you!

This year can be whatever you want it to be, make it a happy and abundant one…for YOUR sakes, you are the one who’s suffering, I’ve loved and I’ve lost, I’ve tortured myself for days months and years and I tell you the biggest pain is regret, don’t have regrets!

I know it seems easier said than done but the first step is always the hardest!

Be kind to someone today, give them your hand, give someone a hug or an ear who needs it!

We are all going through some shit that we know NOTHING about! So be a little kinder today.

It’s important and can make the world and even more beautiful place than it already can be.

I love you all and please reblog, like, tag whoever needs to read this!

I hate that people go through life with no sense of direction or no balls to make a change! It’s all upto you. You are great and powerful beyond your wildest dreams!!!!!

Dream big. Smile lots and take risks. Fall in love, feel every emotion.

I believe in you.

Love always,

GS x

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Stronger….

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Just want to thank you to all my followers and friends of WordPress for making me stronger, for having the patience, the love, the comments all the views and the likes of my posts! I’m glad you enjoyed them! At 4000 and 5000 I’m going to do 2 posts that will be a little Q&A and Facts you want to know about me ! So start leaving your questions or things you want to know in the comments and Email me! GentlemanSparks@Gmail.com …

Stay Strong

Love Always

G.S x

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Jobs, Finding Jobs and Unemployment

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Which one is actually worse these days? See I’ve seen and experienced all of the above, I’ve been working since I was 16, done work experience, voluntary work, amateur and professional work In acting and I’ve worked with Hollywood people all the way to your “average joes”, and I must admit its so hard these days to move from one job to the next.

My sibling works his ass off, got amazing grades throughout his study, a brilliant degree in business and what happened after graduation? He went into the world of reality, searched high and low for jobs, was in and out of a few and even had to declare unemployed for a short stint and its not just him out there suffering!

So am I saying education is a waste of time? Yes and no to be fair, some people like myself wish I’d have gone to Uni, wish I’d have had my independence and living on my own in a big city, sometimes it’s the journey not the destination.

My brother recently had to struggle juggling interviews inbetween his current job which has been a nightmare and unsuccessful for him,

But I explained the lesson in a way I never thought, I told him to think of it as a bad date, what happens when we meet someone and they “aren’t the one”? We move onto the next person without losing anything, with just lessons learnt about what we want and don’t want!

I want to keep this short and sweet but you guys seeking jobs, find something that MAKES YOU HAPPY! find something you’re passionate about, something that makes work not feel like work! But keep trying and keep your head up!, it’s a tough world out there and more and more “safe” jobs are becoming cut throat!

You have this life once, so do everything to your potential and help someone, help someone find a job or reach their goals and you will succeed through GOOD KARMA!

Always believe,

Your Friend,

G.S x

P.S if you have had any problems with the topic I have written about please comment below about your thoughts and experiences! Lets help each other

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Mr Everything…

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“Aint life so cruel when you’re just not good enough?, aint life so cruel when theres someone else she loves”

Some of us have our idea of “Mr or Mrs Everything” but they don’t really exist. You see you have to look for qualities in a partner like they’re potentially your LIFE MATE, that you’re gunna grow old and develop with, someone who will IMPROVE YOU, will make you feel like a man/woman and will compliment you’re every move and thought.

We spend so much time (more ladies than men) really criticising men what we don’t do and not focusing on what we do do right. I’m not saying EVERY lady does this but it’s some kind of social thing, I have a friend at work, she’s a lovely girl, she’s polite, friendly with guys but not flirty but she ALLLLLLLLWAAAAYYYYSSSS complains about her man, and I even tell her if he’s so rubbish/miserable etc why are you still with him sharing a house and sleeping in the same bed? Is she comfortable? Scared she won’t find someone else or “better”? You tell me, and I’ve talked to so many women who say how much they love their man BUT he plays too much xbox or he spends too much time with his friends or he doesn’t go to the gym! So many couples say all this behind one another’s back but won’t say it to their partner

I’ve been on the recieving end of this many times in respects of what I do and don’t do and I realised that for the amount of time I spent in my relationships I’ve not really felt like a MAN, I’ve been made to feel stupid, useless, untrustworthy, incapable of something and my favourite unintelligent and not “good enough”

This isn’t a rant post at all, just I guess abit of closure and forgiveness that I’m not perfect, I fuck up, infact I mess up so much that it’s a blessing because I’m wise, I’m humble, polite, I like talking and listening to people, I’ve never been someone who puts himself first but I’m investing time in myself more now.

I’ve spent the past 2 years torturing myself and literally wasting my life and time because of what happened (see recent posts new followers) and it’s not fair, no one should do that! I rejected all the love and help that was given to me, it’s crazy that you let someone do that to you, maybe I love too deeply maybe I care too much but it’s who I am, I go all in I give it every inch and fibre of my body that I can and it’s not paid off, but that’s life, you fail and mess up and you’ve just gotta grow from it, it doesn’t mean I’m gunna be dating and sleeping with tonnes of women I’m just gunna get my priorities right and learn from it, if I grow old on my own then let’s have it! I’ll just enjoy my life for what it is and will be!

Losing Scarlett has sucked and still sucks at times but MY life is about ME, and I say it like riding a train, some of you will ride the train with me(and some would even ride the bus) but some of you will get de railed and only want to ride the limo with me, remove negative people from your life, remove poison from your life….

Forgive yourself, be strong, be happy, work through that bucket list you’ve always wanted to do, fuck up, make mistakes and learn from them and grow!

You GROW through what you GO through! – times a healer

How do I know? Because 2 years ago around this time I was crying everyday for about a year after that and what else? I didn’t sleep properly I couldn’t eat, diagnosed with depression, couldn’t go 5 seconds without thinking about something that turned my insides inside out or that made my heart feel like it was being repeatedly stabbed! What do I feel now? Scars that are healing into scar tissue, a body and mind that is getting stronger and confidence and trust in who I am,

Will I love again? Will me and Scarlett get back together? Will my career take off? Will I move away? Will I achieve what I want in life? Who knows but it’s gunna be one hell of a journey…..

You coming with me?

I love you all, always.

Your Friend,

G.S x

P.S email me or drop me a comment! I don’t like feeling that I’m talking to myself I hope my posts help someone out there like some have yours have.

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