Life Lessons....

I just need a minute of your time…

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So recently i have just come back from holiday in Spain and as holidays do they help you reflect on everything and its made me realise that as a 25 year old single male who’s working a normal Monday – Friday 08:30/5:00pm job that there is so much of my life that i am frustrated about.

I’m frustrated because i feel stuck in a job that i HATE to pay rent for a house thats not mine, to not really have many true friends, no girlfriend, stuck in a small town with small town mentality and i know that myself and others around me are BIGGER and BETTER than this, and this got me thinking about everything and even you fellow bloggers out there…..

Am i normal for feeling like this and thinking like this? is it bad that i want MORE from life that i am getting? because IF i could (not saying i would) but if i could i would pack my stuff and head for the city/London and just pursuit my dreams of doing music and being in the music industry…Now some of you will say “Well why don’t you just do it?” and thats a great question but I’m always told that we need to make sure we are set here first and i agree but i feel like I’m going to burst sometimes and do something irrational (like i keep dreaming about walking out of my job and giving them a swift and polite F YOU out of the door).

So as i write this, i would love to hear your advice and if any of you have made the big jump and moved somewhere different or far away? or what your thoughts on it are? and if you are reading this feeling the same i ENCOURAGE you to be confident and brave, to not accept leading a normal life and be GREAT, be BOLD and DIFFERENT!, YOU MUST NOT ACCEPT A JOB PURELY FOR THE MONEY YOU MUST LIKE THE JOB!!!!!, You MUST be around people who want you to win and do well!, You must really tune into your surroundings and ask yourself uncomfortable questions sometimes.., See  i want to leave a positive mark on the world and be positive, bring happiness to others and really make a difference and live COMFORTABLY, i want to build something i am proud of and pass on what I’ve learnt and all the mistakes I’ve made that i wish my parents and loved ones would have told me to be careful of etc, But i want you to feel inspired and encouraged by this….i want you to really look deep inside yourself and find your purpose and passion.

Find something you love and that you’re passionate about, find a way to make it into a CAREER for you, take photos, write poems and music, film that video or youtube channel you’ve always wanted, start a fashion line, write a blog, build a business, join that dance class, do that marathon, don’t discourage ANYONE, Be the reason someone wakes up and smiles on a morning, give someone a hug who needs one, tell someone their great, create the life YOU want to live, be the best at whatever it is you love to do. I believe in you and i know we all have greatness within us and i don’t want ANYONE older, younger or the same age to feel the way i feel because its shit and we ALL deserve GREATNESS.

Please Like and Repost this, Tag a friend, Post it on social medias and get it to anyone who needs to read this…

Your Friend Always,

GS xo

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Purpose…

Well my weekend is over, back to work tomorrow…wishing and hoping for things to change, for work to actually improve and for things to get better and have that feeling of moving forward but sometimes i need to take a step back and really look at things.

I can’t go into details but i can honestly say I’ve seen and I’ve been through some shit, some dark dark places and times in my life but looking back from where i am today, in this very moment I’ve moved forward. Ive had ZERO confidence/self esteem, I’ve had NO money I’ve dealt with a lot of difficult personal demons where at times I’ve punished myself for things that have happened to me or around me.

The beauty of life is the comeback, and the realisation of a purpose. A purpose of knowing where you’re going, what you dream and desire, of you what you truly want in life wether its money a new job your favourite music album or a family with children etc, we all have a dream and we all have shit days and have amazing days and its how you deal with all of it. Take time to truly appreciate all the obstacles you go through and also take a moment not to be so harsh on yourself…Don’t be thinking NEW YEAR NEW ME, start today! take control of your surroundings and be sure to invest time and money into YOURSELF.

If you want to do something GO DO IT!, who cares what other people think?, be unique and stand out from the crowd.

I may be rambling on but I’m just getting off my chest what I’m thinking and if it helps someone or you can resonate with it the please reblog it or comment! i love knowing what you all think and what you experience. Its comforting to know theres good people out there and that we all understand from every and any point of view.

FIND YOUR PURPOSE.

Your Friend Always,

G.S x

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The Tinder Path….

Well I’ve decided to give it a go and see who’s out there!, doing really well so far I’ve had a total of 0 matches so my tinder game is clearly strong! Who knows though I might meet someone as they say 1 in 4 relationships are from online dating so who knows, I find tinder shallow but I guess we all judge people first by their appearance right?

How are you finding it? Any advice or pointers ladies?

Wish me luck!

Your friend always,

G.S x

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Stronger….

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Just want to thank you to all my followers and friends of WordPress for making me stronger, for having the patience, the love, the comments all the views and the likes of my posts! I’m glad you enjoyed them! At 4000 and 5000 I’m going to do 2 posts that will be a little Q&A and Facts you want to know about me ! So start leaving your questions or things you want to know in the comments and Email me! GentlemanSparks@Gmail.com …

Stay Strong

Love Always

G.S x

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The Cheat and The Cheated….

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Okay, MOST of us have been there, suspected our partners have been cheating, might be cheating, worried about if you’re good enough, if they like someone else and I was watching a film today called “the other woman” check it out!, it inspired me to write about the topic “Cheating” (the ex I mention is NOT SCARLETT!)

Asking “WHY DO MEN CHEAT?” is the same as asking why women do it?, I’ve been victim of 2 people who I had relationships cheating, one time I was told by multiple people and I just walked away and the other I caught red handed, now I’m going to write SIGNS OF POSSIBLE CHEATING these are my own views and I don’t want you people in relationships to be alarmed if you notice similarities etc its just what I saw found and discovered from MY relationships and experiences!

I’m lucky I have a pretty strong eye and sense of those who’ve cheated and do cheat because I’ve not only discovered it in my relationships but I’ve also discovered it for and from friends relationships etc! So here’s some of things to be aware and cautious of!

1. Taking their phone EVERYWHERE!

You ladies love playing FBI and checking you’re fellas phones even if its a quick peek to see what they’re doing BUT my ex used to snatch her phone everywhere even when she was taking a shower and I later discovered pictures of her that weren’t for me! And without slaying lets just say there were no clothes involved! More than one picture also.

2. Constantly complimenting other people

This one was to the point of where it feels like MIND GAMES, saying x y and z is cute and my ex (NOT SCARLETT) even told me how this guy kept “smacking her arse” and saying how much he’d miss her when she left school etc, sounds harmless but I discovered texts back and forth which basically were inviting some kind of activity that involves a bed if you smell what I’m cooking!

3. Randomly getting text and called LATE at night! Or only being “Friends” – I had this with a guy who said he wanted to “fuck” Scarlett, and they were only “Friends” as you say and I honestly felt like beating him up a few times but I tried to deal with them being friends, yet she stopped being friends with him for a while to suddenly become friends with him when we split up…..yeah sounds normal right?….

THIS PART IS IN RELATION TO THE TOPIC ABOVE “Being Friends”

If you question wether someone likes their friends or can be friends with the opposite sex, have 10 shots of whiskey and if you both or you don’t want to do anything with them kiss flirt or anything further etc then you are probably cool to be friends! (It’s an old formula but works!) VIDEO HERE (why men and women can’t be “Friends”)

The thing mentioned in the video above is something that happened with me and Scarlett she got drunk on a night out and kissed one of her guy “friends” she even told me “he kissed her”… Again no generalisation just an experience of what I’ve seen and had done to me

4. Any strange behaviour

Randomly being quiet, change in ways they kiss, hug, sexually, physically, all these can sometimes be signs of SOMETHING (not always cheating)

5. Empty/Cleared Messages

This is for the ladies or gents who have permission from their partners to check their phones, they always say if you’re deleting texts Etc that you don’t want your partner to see you’re already halfway to cheating!….

Look just be careful guys, cheating and being cheated on is horrendous, especially those who are in marriages, or long relationships, it hurts like hell so be cautious, relationships these days are hard with social networks being another way of secret contact and cheating (another one of my ex’s favourites) – I don’t want to freak some of you out but these are only 1 persons opinions and experiences…

Cheating can be anything, and there’s a saying “Cheating is anytime we would not want our partner seeing what we’re doing.” – I know SO many guys In a relationship and what they get up to OUTSIDE their relationship they would be immediately dumped for the way they look and talk about other girls, the places they visit(strip clubs etc) so it’s hard to distinguish a good lie or the actual truth sometimes… – cheating isn’t always sex!!!

If there’s any you’d like to share please reblog this post or comment/like it!

Also a quick topic I want to hear from you guys, when you’ve been cheated on and found out how do you react? Do you seek revenge or do you just leave cut your losses and recover?

I want to hear and share stories, lets put it all on the line here and discuss!

Have you been the cheater? What made you do it? Would you cheat again? What’s the worst lies you’ve made or heard?…..

Spread the love and be kind, your stories may help someone and I hope mine do too.

Your Friend Always,

G.S x

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I Can’t Make You Love Me….

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The link below says it all….

My favourite song ever and the way it is sung and the lyrics are perfect!

You can’t make your heart feel something that it won’t…

Enjoy 😊

Love always,

Your Friend,

G.S x

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Mr Everything…

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“Aint life so cruel when you’re just not good enough?, aint life so cruel when theres someone else she loves”

Some of us have our idea of “Mr or Mrs Everything” but they don’t really exist. You see you have to look for qualities in a partner like they’re potentially your LIFE MATE, that you’re gunna grow old and develop with, someone who will IMPROVE YOU, will make you feel like a man/woman and will compliment you’re every move and thought.

We spend so much time (more ladies than men) really criticising men what we don’t do and not focusing on what we do do right. I’m not saying EVERY lady does this but it’s some kind of social thing, I have a friend at work, she’s a lovely girl, she’s polite, friendly with guys but not flirty but she ALLLLLLLLWAAAAYYYYSSSS complains about her man, and I even tell her if he’s so rubbish/miserable etc why are you still with him sharing a house and sleeping in the same bed? Is she comfortable? Scared she won’t find someone else or “better”? You tell me, and I’ve talked to so many women who say how much they love their man BUT he plays too much xbox or he spends too much time with his friends or he doesn’t go to the gym! So many couples say all this behind one another’s back but won’t say it to their partner

I’ve been on the recieving end of this many times in respects of what I do and don’t do and I realised that for the amount of time I spent in my relationships I’ve not really felt like a MAN, I’ve been made to feel stupid, useless, untrustworthy, incapable of something and my favourite unintelligent and not “good enough”

This isn’t a rant post at all, just I guess abit of closure and forgiveness that I’m not perfect, I fuck up, infact I mess up so much that it’s a blessing because I’m wise, I’m humble, polite, I like talking and listening to people, I’ve never been someone who puts himself first but I’m investing time in myself more now.

I’ve spent the past 2 years torturing myself and literally wasting my life and time because of what happened (see recent posts new followers) and it’s not fair, no one should do that! I rejected all the love and help that was given to me, it’s crazy that you let someone do that to you, maybe I love too deeply maybe I care too much but it’s who I am, I go all in I give it every inch and fibre of my body that I can and it’s not paid off, but that’s life, you fail and mess up and you’ve just gotta grow from it, it doesn’t mean I’m gunna be dating and sleeping with tonnes of women I’m just gunna get my priorities right and learn from it, if I grow old on my own then let’s have it! I’ll just enjoy my life for what it is and will be!

Losing Scarlett has sucked and still sucks at times but MY life is about ME, and I say it like riding a train, some of you will ride the train with me(and some would even ride the bus) but some of you will get de railed and only want to ride the limo with me, remove negative people from your life, remove poison from your life….

Forgive yourself, be strong, be happy, work through that bucket list you’ve always wanted to do, fuck up, make mistakes and learn from them and grow!

You GROW through what you GO through! – times a healer

How do I know? Because 2 years ago around this time I was crying everyday for about a year after that and what else? I didn’t sleep properly I couldn’t eat, diagnosed with depression, couldn’t go 5 seconds without thinking about something that turned my insides inside out or that made my heart feel like it was being repeatedly stabbed! What do I feel now? Scars that are healing into scar tissue, a body and mind that is getting stronger and confidence and trust in who I am,

Will I love again? Will me and Scarlett get back together? Will my career take off? Will I move away? Will I achieve what I want in life? Who knows but it’s gunna be one hell of a journey…..

You coming with me?

I love you all, always.

Your Friend,

G.S x

P.S email me or drop me a comment! I don’t like feeling that I’m talking to myself I hope my posts help someone out there like some have yours have.

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